Repurposed Draft 1
Desire to please one’s social environment contains two contradictory tendencies. On one hand it contains kindness, a desire to give individuals joy; but on the other hand, there is the wish for this joy and these “favors” to bounce back onto the self in the form of recognition and admiration, so they are attributed to ones personality as values. Sociologist Georg Simmel discusses in his essay titled “Adornment” that pleasing becomes a form of power: distinguishing the self from others, and to be the object of attention that others do not receive. The meaning of adornment, or how we dress ourselves, intertwines with this idea of wanting to please our peers; maybe one looks inspiring or stands out in a crowd — pleasure is obtained from this person because he or she is memorable. For a moment you thought about this person’s clothing in a positive and longing way. Perhaps you are envious. Through your thoughts and positive compliments, this person has gained a sort of power over you. The surface of the body seems everywhere to be treated not only as the boundary of the individual as a biological and psychological entity, but as the frontier of the social self as well. Some may not perceive or notice the body and fashion in this particular way, however personally, the desire to obtain the “power of appearance” has driven me to do unspeakable things.
I never was a fashionable child. My idea of clothes shopping was sitting down with my mother and selecting obnoxiously colored fleece pullovers and cotton stretch pants from the seasonal Lands’ End catalog. My appearance wasn’t an issue to me at the time, and in turn, I wasn’t the most popular or pretty girl in school. The first realization I had that clothing may indeed be a factor of others opinions occurred when my best friend from down the street switched schools and began attending my elementary. For a second grader, she was fashionable. She wore Limited Too’s pricey sequined dresses and skirts, and sported Lisa Frank folders and pens. Other girls were envious of her, and all the boy’s wanted to be her friend. Jealous of her popularity, I insisted to my mother that I needed an article of clothing from the Limited Too. She took me there, and I left with a single shirt; the price tags didn’t agree with my mothers checkbook. This begins the long and consistent battle I have struggled with for almost my entire life; my attempts to gain the power of confidence, and acceptance through how I physically appear to others.
To feel accepted, or looked highly upon, can be a difficult achievement; especially at a young age. We all want to love ourselves, and sometimes I found that the only way I could begin to do so was by the approval of my peers. This was no healthy way of thinking, and because of it my confidence level was very low. Constantly I would be imagining all the negative thoughts students would think about me as I walked through the halls; so I hung my head forward staring at the floor, and kept as silent as possible in classes. I don’t fully understand why I’m hypersensitive about others thoughts and opinions, it seemed as though I was the only one thinking and behaving this way, making me even less confident. My parents income was below the level of the “well dressed popular kids”, and my social environment put an emphasis on appearance. Materials on the outer shell are what they see, and these shells undermine what goes on underneath. Personality is lost and substituted by tangible objects. The best moments at school were the days right after my birthday or Christmas; when I would have something new I could wear or show off. Being complimented and having something worth complimenting boosted my confidence level exponentially; suddenly I was a goddess flowing through the halls, chatting and swooping in on familiar faces. No longer ashamed or hidden. Unfortunately moments like these were scarce; they would ware off after a few days, even hours. I needed to find a way to bypass this roadblock.
My heart is skipping beats; hammering into my chest as if to escape. I’m carrying a purse that was lighter a few moments ago, in fact, it was nearly empty when I walked into the department store. Just a few things, maybe some gum and my cell phone. My girlfriend is in arms reach, parallel to me as we walk through the isles. She turns to me, making eye contact and nodding. Her eyes are slits of snakes. She hisses “Good luck” to me before disappearing behind the sea of clothing racks. I take a long and deep breath, inhaling as if it were my last, as my eyes narrow to match hers. I scan the ceiling for those little black bubbles, as they scan for people like me who want to pop them. They’re like bottled bubbles blown from a child, if they got stuck to the ceiling and turned black. No longer transparent or friendly, no, now they hunt for snakes like me.
I coil around a rack near the back of the store, plucking at hangers but not really looking. My large purse hangs on my forearm as a pretend to be interested in price tags. Suddenly my phone begins to ring, so I open my purse to retrieve it. As I do so, I let loose my grip in my left coat sleeve and a few items fall out of it and into the remaining space in my bag. I then reach for my phone, bringing it out and closing my bag immediately after. A girl who is shopping nearby glances inquisitively over at my ringing phone. I hold it up and turn off the alarm I had set for this exact moment, acting like it was an unwanted call. She returns to her shopping, and my lips curl to a smile. I’m such an actress, I think to myself as I begin walking to the exit. My pace quickens and my heart follows; eyes resting upon the door and the real world beyond it. Only one last move in the game, and it’s through the two shields that rest on either side of the stores entrance. The stationary police, who’s sirens go off when laws are broken. I smile at the woman folding clothes at the front of the store, she tells me to have a good day. I take another breath, head spinning, blood pumping, adrenaline rush, explosion. It takes all my might to swing my feet through the doors, but I make it. No alarms. I turn to the girl inside the store and say: “You too!”, and I bolt for the getaway car.
This was not the first time I pulled off shoplifting. I had accomplished it many times. I was a master. My accomplice and I would attack stores with our cleverly found loopholes, and escape with all their treasure. We would cut off security tags that warned the detectors by the doors using small sewing scissors brought in our bags. We would hide away in dressing rooms, hiding away clothes the clerks would never notice peaking out from under our coats. To us it seemed reasonable; why the need to work just to pay for overpriced items from stores that make too much money? We deserve this stuff. We are good people to those around us so why shouldn’t we get rewarded for our efforts. I reasoned with it in every possible way, excused it from it’s unrighteousness, made myself believe I wasn’t doing anything wrong. It wasn’t wrong that I was leaving a store with a pair of shoes, three shirts, sunglasses, underwear, and pockets full of jingling jewelry. No, this was okay. After I began stealing, it was impossible to stop. At first it was just to have clothes for others to be jealous of, to gain the power of adornment and appreciation by cheating the system. But then the action of theft became the addiction. I thrived on getting away with something I knew was wrong. Like a child giggling to themselves after climbing on top of the cupboard to obtain the out-of-reach cookies. Always inventing new ways and methods of getting hands on their sugary prize. Unfortunately mother eventually realizes the missing cookies, and you’re caught.
My wrist is becoming irritated by the metal cuff. It’s choking my hand, turning it pale and lifeless. My entire body is lifeless. I’m staring at the plastic cage in front of me, uncomfortably squashed in my plastic seat with no cushion. They didn’t want me feeling comfortable. This was not a comfortable place. Chained to me was my friends wrist; she was yanking mine around as she shakily tapped the buttons on her phone, texting a warning to her family. I was mad. We had been so stupid, so careless. Some of our close friends had heard about our feats, our successful stories of getting away. They came with us on this particular day, which was the mistake. They wanted things for their approaching vacation; useless things like tanning lotion and tooth brushes. Why did I say yes to doing this for them? We all went into the store together, and they carelessly stuffed my bag with fruit rollups and cheap sunglasses: all in plain view of the public eye. I’m sure we attracted attention quickly, we were loud, they were excited. Somewhere back in the hardware section, I spotted him. He wore a baseball hat with a brim curved around his eyes, and he was older. In his fifties, maybe. I caught his eye and he quickly turned away and pretended to be interested in some shovels. It didn’t sit well with me. I shooed my friends out of the isle and they understood, one dropped an empty granola bar box on the floor. Evidence.
We all made it out the door, and I took in a fresh breath of air. Seconds later six men dressed in serious colors surrounded my friend and I. My other friends were not included inside of this circle; they were not the ones carrying bags stuffed full of useless unpaid for products. They had used me and now I was caught. The fresh air I had inhaled became stale and sour in my lungs. I couldn’t breathe. The men took ahold of our arms and dragged us back into the store. Leading us to a secluded room towards the back. Inside the room they took our bags, and dumped out their contents. Apparently I had $63.95 worth of items in my bag, and my accomplice had around the same. The man in the baseball hat was there, revealing that he was a secret shopper and had watched the crime commence. Fuck. I tuned out the rest of what they said, too concerned about what was to come. My parents finding out what I had done, what they would think of me. Would I go to jail? Probably not. Hopefully not. I was being led to the police car now, where I remained. Waiting for my punishment, staring at the plastic cage in front of me.
I could bore you with the remaining details of the day, but it went how you would picture it. I went to the police station, where I was locked in a cell for several hours. I was questioned, and told I would be given a court date. Released, I returned home to my parents, where I explained what happened. My story was a stretch from the truth, however. They thought I had never stolen before, this was the first time. My friend told her parents that I was the one who told her to steal; apparently I forced her to do it. This was the end of our friendship, her parents hated me after her story was told. I didn’t get in much trouble from my family. They were troubled. Concerned. I had convinced them it was a one-time stupid decision, and they bought it. Several months later I received a court date, and after the court date I got 6 months probation, from which I was released 4 months early. One of the requirements for completing probation was to visit a prison for a tour. “This is what you could be like” show and tell from police officers and prison maintenance men. At the time it scared me, but in the back of my head I thought: “Next time I wont get caught”.
I didn’t steal for some time after I was arrested. The thought of being in that car, chained together, didn’t seem worth the risk. I knew if I ever got caught again it wouldn’t end with a slap on the wrist, so the idea was put to the back of my head. Hibernating. I bought a smaller purse, so I wasn’t tempted to fill the empty space. I stayed away from stores, no desire at all to venture in. Like most occurrences and happenings dwindle with time, I eventually had forgotten the negative impact getting caught had on my life. I eventually forgot that I could get in serious trouble. I eventually forgot about my smaller purse and started believing the larger one suited me more. I started stealing things again; just small things that no one would miss. One or two small things, just how I started in the first place. I knew it was wrong this time around, but again I slowly talked myself into thinking it was okay. I wouldn’t mess up this time, I thought. I wouldn’t get caught.
It started with a trip to Ohio with my boyfriend and his family. It was summertime; time to have fun and let loose. I was on vacation after all. What is it about vacations that make you so carefree? My boyfriend didn’t want to go shopping, he knew that I loved it and would probably want to go with a girl. His younger sister came with me. We walked the streets of the outdoor mall and she questioned me about the first time I got caught shoplifting. Her older brother had told her about it. Figures. I told her the story, and somewhat shamefully told her that I had started doing it again. Her eyes lit up. “Do you think you could get me a few things?” she asked. Wanting to impress her, I agreed.
After I returned back from the Ohio trip my life crumbled before me. It was evident to my parents that I had a serious problem. They had noticed my closet growing again, noticed me using the big bag. My mother bought me several books, all from acclaimed writers who had their own issues with shoplifting. All these people who wanted to share their stories. I skimmed a few of them, but I started feeling like I had a serious mental issue, so I quit. My life hung above the burner for several months after this. I wasn’t happy. I realized that stealing things gave me no satisfaction. I opened my closet and started gloomily at all the clothes that were not legally mine.
Every once in a while I still get the itch. I know that if I scratch it will only spread all over my body; incurable chicken pox.